do you know your neighbors?

When I imagined being a homeowner, I had high hopes of the kind of neighbor I’d be. Of course, I’d be the neighbor that everyone knew and loved because she was just so neighborly. Of course, I’d be the neighbor who baked and waved and threw birthday parties and smiled and introduced myself first and offered free babysitting services once a year. Of course.

But then I moved in.

Beyond a casual wave and awkward stares and nods, no one cared about the fact that we were new and fun and actually did like pies, pumpkin pies and apple pies and sweet potato pies.

I was a good neighbor before I became a neighbor.

Now, I won’t say that I’m a rude neighbor. I pick up trash when I see it. I usually wave and talk to parents with kids…or parents who look like they want to talk to me. And I sometimes wave to others without kids (when they dare to look me in the eye when I smile in their direction). Oh, and I do care about my neighbors and do think about them and their lives…but, with most of my neighbors, particularly the ones without kids, I show my “caring” feelings in unconventional ways.

In my head, this all makes sense. In my head, these stories are what make me feel OK with not really knowing my neighbors beyond casual hellos and goodbyes.

“Back in the olden days, neighbors knew each other. They shared sugar and pies,” or at least that’s what my 90 year-old grandma would tell me. But it’s 2012 now, and now, things have changed, I think. Or, maybe they haven’t changed, but that’s what I’ve been telling myself to rationalize my antisocial tendencies when it comes to 99% of the people who I live with in my neighborhood.

STOP.

Do you know your neighbors?

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3 Responses to do you know your neighbors?

  1. says:

    I live in the Twilight Zone or something because normally its like what you described in your neighborhood but when we moved here our neighbors literally came out to introduce themselves, ask if they could pick up some lunch for us, etc. When I had the baby at least 5 of them came over with gifts! It blew my mind.

    On another topic, I nominated you for the Reader Appreciation Award. :)

    • says:

      Oh, wow! Your neighbors sound really nice! Do you live in a newer or older community? I ask because I find that most older, more established communities are more friendly and community oriented. Our community is very large and has been in existence for almost a decade. Most people here now have just moved in and most of the original people have moved away.

      Thank you for the nomination, Vanessa! I truly feel so honored! I meant to come here and respond yesterday but I fell asleep. :( I hope you are enjoying your Mother’s Day!

      • says:

        Our community is about 5 years old so I guess people feel like since they were moving in at the same time, might as well be friendly. We’ve started having people sell their homes and the new people aren’t as friendly so far.
        You’re really welcome! I really do love reading your blog. :) Enjoy your sleep and I hope you’re having a great Mother’s Day too!

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